How To Stop A Breakup
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Relationship is one of the many best things that the humans can enjoy and cherish. You can share your deepest thoughts with the relationships that you have or can just have relaxed time periods with them after a movie or dinner. Like many things relationships also have good and bad times.
When you work as a team with the other members, you get to know much about other people, like their attitude, their way of thinking, what things they give importance to etc. During the bad times of a relationship, it is possible that a partner thinks that he/she is not getting what he/she really deserves or can think that the needful is not attained.
In these cases the member may wish to walk away from the relationship. This leads to breakup in the relationship. To avoid this situation, there are various steps which a person can take. Some of them are listed below.
How To Stop A Breakup
Listen to What the Person has to Say
Nobody takes any step without any reason and hence if a person wants to break away from a relationship then there has to be a reason for it. You can know the reason by simply listening to what the other person has to say. You do not need to get defensive for this.
Let the Person know that you Understood the Point
The other person should know that you understood what was being told by him/her. You can let him/her know by either writing a letter or by rephrasing the thoughts back to the person. For example, if your girlfriend says that she is fed up with your alcohol drinking habit, the you can tell her that “the alcohol consumption disturbs you and you think that I am not respecting your desires, feelings and wishes’’.
But if you answer in a similar fashion like ‘’I do not like your perfumes which smell rotten and disturb the house environment’’, then the things can go further bad and you will further destroy the relationship.
Understand the Issues Correctly
After listening to the person carefully and letting him/her know that you have understood what was meant by him/her, you also need to understand what the basic issue/issues are which are leading to the disturbances in the relationship.
You can know this by asking questions which relate to the issue and deducing facts from the answers obtained. You should also not try to make any kind of assumptions. Reading between the lines can help you in knowing the issue in detail.
Understand the Feelings of your Partner
To know the issues is not everything. You must also know what the other person really feels about those issues and the sensitivity he/she has for them. For example, it may be a very minor issue for you to not keep your shoes in their place after returning from office. But your partner might feel that you have little or no respect for him/her or the housekeeping.
Share your Feelings with your Partner
You can also tell and share your feelings with your partner. Try to convey your original feelings and do not be defensive about the responses you give to you partner. You can also discuss the current status of relationship, how things are and what you think they should be like. You can also discuss the shortfalls and challenges in the relationship and the steps you think are required to overcome them.
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Take your Time in giving your Response
You can get to know the true pain of your partner and the real reason for him to be walking out of the relationship by absorbing his/her point and thinking about it for a day or two. You should not hurry in giving your response.
Make a Positive Decision
Convey to your partner that you really want the relationship to flourish further and would work hard to overcome all the grievances and shortfalls that have occurred in the past. This can be done by working through things.
Apologize
You might have done things or committed mistakes which have led you partner to walk away form the relationship. You can say sorry for those mistakes and issues that would have occurred knowingly or unknowingly. The apology should be heart felt and should be said only if you truly feel to apologize.
Figure out the Steps for Maintaining the Relationship
You can resolve the differences by taking steps together or alone in the right direction. Some of them can be letting the partner pursue his/her goal, undertaking counseling sessions etc. You can also know and learn the conflict resolution skills which will help you in solving the problems.
Practice Give and Take
You should know that a relationship is not only about taking but requires giving as well. You should therefore learn to practice give and take in all your relationships.
Respect the Liking of your Partner
You should know the likings of your partner and should try to do some “liked activities” together with your partner. For example, if your partner likes playing lawn tennis, then you should try to accompany him to the courts and play the game with him/her. This would give fun and your relationship bond will also get strengthened.
Realize the Importance of Relationship
You should know the real importance of relationships and should also be willing to cover that extra mile for getting them to work. Your relationship will last much longer if you talk about the grievances/issues and work through them for their resolution.
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